3 Ways to Grow as a Single Christian

I had to take a little break from my blog because life was so busy and I had to give my time and energy to other priorities. Sometimes in life, we have to slow down and rest. This will help us come back to our passions and give our best when we take time to rest our souls and seek inspiration.

I am so glad to be back and to bring you this week's post! I hope it blesses you as much as it has blessed me. Often we are called to give a message to others and many times the Lord uses this time of study in the word to minister to our hearts. As I am going through preparing for this post, I am preaching to my heart as well.

This week we will be starting a mini-series on SINGLENESS!

In part one we will discuss 3 ways to pursue singleness as a Christian. This whole series is just what God is teaching and calling me to do in life right now. I hope it blesses you and guides you back to Christ in your season of singleness.

1. GUARD YOUR HEART AND SEEK PURITY

The word, “singleness” can bring on so many different thoughts and feelings. Some find this word to mean loneliness, independence, or boredom. But as we look at many things in our life, we must put on the lens of the Word, the truth of the gospel, and the heart of Jesus. I think that the media that goes into our eyes - like social media, movies, and books with romantic storylines - can influence our hearts to create false expectations of not only what relationships look like but also how we handle a relationship when we are in one. This is harmful to our hearts and relationships. But before all this happens, it can also create temptations that may cause us to battle sexual sin that leads us away from purity in our thoughts and actions. (Proverbs 4:23a) So before we tackle how to be a single follower of Christ in day-to-day life, we must first start with our hearts and make sure we are pouring truth and not the world into our hearts. Be careful of what you set your eyes on and if there are influences that are full of temptations, cut them off ( Matthew 18:8-9). Seek first the Lord, not this world of sin! (Matthew 5:8)

2. THERE IS A SEASON FOR EVERYTHING

We are given many different seasons in life. Each season the Lord gives us to teach us more about Him and draw us closer to Him. I believe that the season of singleness can be such a blessing. At times it can be unenjoyable to see your friends having dates with their boyfriend or girlfriend. You may be living your life more alone. This is a great time to use your time to work on growing your relationship with the Lord. You have more time to read His word, pray to Him, and get to know His character. (1 Corinthians 7:32-34) This sets you up not only for a life of joy and peace but as you go on to build a relationship with someone of the opposite gender your foundation will be strong on the Lord. We simply can not love others well without knowing first the love of God and having a strong relationship with Christ. Without it, you will be lost. You will be lost in your daily life with or without any form of a relationship. Of course, we must grow with a future spouse in a relationship as you learn to balance each other and keep Christ as the center of your relationship. But you have to first build that foundation while you are single as we can not build a house on the sand but must build our house on the rock. (Matthew 7:24-27)

3. GROW AS AN INDIVIDUAL

During the season of singleness, we can also work on ourselves. (Colossians 3:23) This is a wonderful time to learn how to take care of yourself and grow in many ways. A great place to start is to work on your goals and passions. Learn a hobby, start working out, invest in others, serve the church, etc. Pour into God, others, and yourself, and your soul will be satisfied. If we don’t first learn how to take care of ourselves outside of a relationship, we won’t be able to do it well when juggling to love another person. After God, we must also take care of ourselves as our body is a temple! (1 Corinthians 6:19)

Thank you for reading! I hope you have a blessed week! Can not wait to bring you part two of the singleness series!